Dear OneLife Networx,
I am a single mother. My son who is turning 5 years old this December is already going to school. My job as a call center agent is not enough to give me and my son a comfortable life. I have no regrets having a son, I love him so dearly, he is actually my inspiration, he is my source of joy.
But sometimes I cannot help myself from longing for someone who will take care of me and share all my pains and burden. How I wish I have someone besides me who will hug me when I am lonely or someone whom I can share my pain. How I long for someone, a partner, a husband... I am not expecting you to help me find a husband (LOL), I just want to share my thoughts, maybe you can give me an advice. Thanks!
Dear Single Mom,
Thank you for your email. We share your pain and we know how difficult it is to raise a child all by yourself. Being a single parent means wearing two hats, hat of a mother and hat of a father. This is the reason why most single parents end up tired and lonely because the are left with no one to take care of them. Maybe this is what you are feeling right now - you are already tired.
Having a partner or a husband might not be the solution to your problem. If you think of it, having a husband may entail additional work for you because as a wife you also have certain responsibilities towards your husband. Being in a relationships is a big responsibility. Since you are already tired, taking another role may not be a good idea right now.
We suggest that you try to assess your current situation first. If you feel your current job is not providing you well, maybe you could look at other employment opportunities elsewhere. Sometimes, money problems affects our outlook towards life. Your current outlook seems gloomy maybe because your financial health is not so stable. Work on that first.
If you are looking for someone to hug you during your challenging moments or if you are yearning for someone whom you can share your pains, a close friend maybe your immediate option right now.
As a final note, there are millions of single parents out there who are very happy and contended with their current situation. Be one of them.